Here’s the equation: BE + DO = HAVE

by | Jan 26, 2022 | Sexual Empowerment

I will not lay down. I will not be resigned that “it’s just gonna be like it always is. Nothing will change.” 

Someone actually posted a comment to that effect this week on a post about the phone banking I have been doing. 

How do you think the world changes? By resignation? By wishing? By trusting God will do it for you? 

No. It changes because people like you and me decide it’s going to change, and we take empowered, committed action to create the world we want. 

And if you believe in God, you can believe she is at your back all the way down the line.

How do you think your relationships change? Are they different? 

Nope. They change because you change. You be what you want to have, and you create it. 

Here’s the equation: BE + DO = HAVE

If your relationships are not what you want them to be, you get to be what is missing. 

If you are not who you want to be, you get to identify what you really want and shift your whole BEing to align with that. 

If the world is not what you want, then you get to work to create what you do want. 

If you choose to resign, to lay down, to stand on the sidelines and watch while you do nothing, you get to say exactly NOTHING about the results when you don’t like them. 

It takes all of us. 

We each have a different contribution to make. We carry archetypal energies that are potent ways of BEing and within those energies lie our greatest gifts. 

Caroline Myss has written a lot about archetypes and believes we each have 12 key archetypes that we carry, and that four of those are universal—we all have them. The other eight are our own archetypal blueprint. 

The four that are universal: The Child, The Victim, The Saboteur, The Prostitute. 

People don’t always like to hear the last one because we have a lot of ideas and stereotypes about what that means. 

What it means we get to look at is what is our price? 

We all have a price. We all have a limit. We all have a place where we will sell. Ourselves, our souls, our services, our time, our skills. 

What is your price? To whom are you willing to sell out for the right price? 

In our sexuality, we also carry our own set of archetypes and our culture is steaming with sexual archetypes for women that give us all kinds of messages about who and what we are supposed to be as sexual beings. 

In my Sexual Archetype Ritual we dial those archetypes in by calling in live priestesses to come and embody the archetypes so that we can examine them in ourselves, see what we relate to, what we are repelled by, and what we want to develop more of in ourselves. 

Over the years, I have added an archetype here, dropped another there. It’s hard to limit us to the coven of sexual archetypes we currently explore. (And they will change again because I am changing, my clients are developing, and our world is evolving.) 

For this virtual Fire Woman Retreat we are hosting the Sexual Archetype Ritual on Friday night. For people who just cannot swing being with us for the whole weekend, you can get yourself a ticket to the Sexual Archetype Ritual for the first time ever! 

Why not see how the Femme Fatale lives in you, or why you are fascinated by the Butch or the Prostitute, or how to invoke your own Wildness in the Wild One/Wild Woman, or what you can learn from the Empowered Submissive, the Wife or the Cougar. 

Archetypes are potent energies and they are alive in the culture. Some are as old as time, like the Prostitute, so we have a whole lot of ideas about her. Some are newer like the Cougar/MILF and yet we still have a clear picture of what that archetype is at least on the surface. 

It’s when we dig down that we find pieces of ourselves and we reintegrate what we have disowned.  

When you piece together all your exiled parts, you come back together in your true wholeness and freedom. 

I can’t wait to play with you in the erotic playground of Fire Woman

It is time we all come home, own our power and use it to create that world we really want to live in. 

Another world is possible. The life we want to have is possible. 

I hope to see you at Fire Woman. If you are a man, please send the women and non-binary seekers in your life. 

We welcome you all with open arms. The time is NOW. It’s next week.

A’magine is a pioneer in sexual empowerment and her extensive real-world experience sparkles throughout this book. This is a delightful journey toward better, richer, more fulfilling sex, for women who want more joyful, creative, pleasurable lives.


co-founder of Cuddle Party

Hi, I’m A’magine

I’ve been a Sexual Empowerment Educator
[&] Coach for over 25 years

I’ve helped thousands of people improve their lives, boost their confidence, learn the art of asking for what they want, step into their power, learn to radically love their bodies, show up as emotionally powerful in their relationships, rock-star their mid-life with the best sex ever, and put in perspective and practice the very real and important role sexuality was meant to play in their lives