I turned 50 this week! It’s very surreal to think back to when you’re a kid and you think that people in their 40s and 50s are so old! I don’t actually feel old at all and people never think I’m my age and that’s because of the way that I live.
To be fair it’s also because I never had children and I do think that children really age you.
I have also lived my life on my terms, I committed to my joy and the pursuit of my mission. I have not carried the amount of shame that many people do which gets very heavy and impacts our bodies. I have surrounded myself by amazing people who fill me up with love, kindness, joy and who I get to play with and have fun with all the time.
I don’t judge myself for my age and I have never hidden my age. I can definitely thank Betty Dodson for being my absolute role model for how to grow old because she loved every decade and she reveled in every new step of her life, no matter her age.
I have said countless times to people that it is never too late to develop your sexuality, to learn how to be in pleasure and joy, to explore new sexual and intimate terrain, and to come home to yourself.
We were put here to have fun.
We were put here to play and be in our joy.
We were put here to enjoy the ride.
We were put here to pursue the things that light up our spirits and our hearts.
We were put here to create something in this world and to leave it better than we found it.
I believe if we do these things, we do not age because we do not buy into some pre-prescribed story of what our life is meant to be.
I have lived for half a century and I have done so much in that time and yet, there is so much more I can’t wait to do.
I feel vibrant, healthy, joyful, loved and at home in myself. I want that for us all.
I hope you’ll come play with me in my 50th year. Losing Betty has been a big moment for me in once again reckoning that nothing is guaranteed, tomorrow is only a dream and life is right now.
For my 50th should you wish to send a little love my way, my wish is to know how I have impacted you and your life, if I have. So you might:
- Send me a card. I absolutely love cards. I am a writer and words of appreciation are my love language. Send a card to: PO Box 212, Placitas, NM 87043
- If you have read either of my books and have not reviewed them, please review them. The greatest gift you can give an author is to review and recommend their books. I know that Woman on Fire and Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men could impact many, many more people in the world with your support.
I send you visions of joy, love, ecstasy, and purpose in this next phase of your beautiful life.
Thank you for being a part of my journey.