What is Sexual Initiation?

by | Nov 17, 2021 | Solo Play, The Birds & the Bees

We are in deep need of a return to intentional sexual initiation in our world.

As our world changes and morphs at rapid pace, we are longing for the power of ritual. For wise teachings to anchor and root us in our highest aspects of self-evolution.

We long for others to see us and hold us. For others to know us for our truest depths and the milestones on our path.

What is initiation?

Initiation is a thirsty part of our path that has the power to heal us deeply. To connect us in a meaningful felt way and lift us up into our highest personal power.

It is an expansion of self. An expansion through an intentional acknowledgement of a new piece of our journey.

It is stepping through a portal into a new way of being. Praying, healing, loving, choosing, offering. It is a moment that gets to be acknowledged with meaning, anointing, blessing, attuning and healing through sacred ritual.


Devotion is a longing we do not often realize we have. Typically, the most comfortable place for devotion in the western world is in another human.

Yet this is usually a false place for devotion at a soul level. Because at the end of the day, we each need to follow our own path. And that trumps any relationship choice, marriage or commitment we make.

We get to ask ourselves, “What am I truly devoted to?”

What does devotion to my inner being look like? Beyond the marital devotion that too often serves as validation of who we are?

Sexual initiation, in turn, can take many forms, and need not be related to another human.

Why do we need sexual initiation?

The truth is that marriage or a wedding often serve as a sexual initiation, yet there are many other ways to initiate ourselves, our sexuality and our gender journey.

I have experienced so many sexual initiations in my life and the power of those moments of knowing something deeper about myself and my capacity for pleasure and intimacy is greater than most moments in my life.

That has looked like having my first orgasm, trusting a partner to do something to/with/for me that I’ve not done before, deepening my ability to receive and allowing myself to do so with great intention, having an out-of-body intense orgasm that feels like it transcends worlds, unlike any other I had experienced before, or communing with several people to create a unique erotic experience.

Many of us go through an initiation of our gender expression and come into a fuller understanding of our gendered self, be it as “divine feminine,” “evolved masculine,” or as shifting away from the gender we were told to embody at birth into the one that we feel is truly ours to claim.

I have watched so many friends and loved ones go through their own gender initiation, transforming their body to match who they are inside. This is potent ritual and initiation, and it has existed in many forms for centuries.

How we create sexual initiation

For many of us, a sexual initiation may come in trying on something new. Going deep with ourselves or with a lover sexually. Or experiencing a powerful transformation in our relationship to our body, an awakening of our own sexual energy and power. Or an embracing of something deeply potent in ourselves we had not touched before.

Sex has that power to assist us to tap into a part of ourselves that is pure life force magic. That opens a genuine true aspect of self. Opens in a way that allows our deepest desires and greatest truths to surface.

We often find portals to other dimensions of the world and of our own infinite selves through deep sexual connection. Sex has that phenomenal, transformative power.

The possibilities for sexual initiation

Sexual initiation is walking through a portal and coming home to our body, pleasure, desire, and/or full self-expression.

It can be embracing a part of ourselves we have turned away from and calling home a part we have exiled.

Healing a part that has been wounded and choosing to reclaim and empower it as ours as a part of the glorious gift of sexuality and the whole of who we are.

Sexual initiation is choosing to drink the nectar of life from the Goddess tit herself, knowing her milk is our birthright, knowing that pleasure is deeply meaningful and important—that it is not a base pursuit.

As we dive deeper into the well of our infinite, timeless self, and open to the parts we have not embraced heretofore, we come home and the initiations will come.

The doors will open.

The portals will appear.

The door is in front of you. All you need to do is say “yes” and walk through it. You will be held, seen and known. You will know new parts of yourself and call them home.

A’magine is a pioneer in sexual empowerment and her extensive real-world experience sparkles throughout this book. This is a delightful journey toward better, richer, more fulfilling sex, for women who want more joyful, creative, pleasurable lives.


co-founder of Cuddle Party

Hi, I’m A’magine

I’ve been a Sexual Empowerment Educator
[&] Coach for over 25 years

I’ve helped thousands of people improve their lives, boost their confidence, learn the art of asking for what they want, step into their power, learn to radically love their bodies, show up as emotionally powerful in their relationships, rock-star their mid-life with the best sex ever, and put in perspective and practice the very real and important role sexuality was meant to play in their lives